Self-Coaching Questions from Skyterra’s Virtual Life Coach
Once you’re back home, you get to decide what you want to incorporate into your life from your experience at Skyterra. This is where your Inspired Intentions really come to life as you make your next moves and take your next steps!
Fortify Your Inspired Intentions
The more you develop a vision of what you want for yourself, the more it will pull you in that direction. This is the time to think BIG!
- What do you really want?
- Imagine what your life will be like when you are already there. What does it look like? Feel like? What will you be doing differently?
- What would be in a video of you living the life you want? What would be the soundtrack? What would positive reviews say?
- Why/Reasons?
- What’s most important to you about this? Why now?
- What could be possible that hasn’t happened yet?
- In what ways will you benefit from achieving your Inspired Intentions?
- What elements of your life will be positively impacted by making your Inspired Intentions come to be? Your overall happiness? Stress levels? Health? Energy? What else?
- Identity
- What type of person will you become? Live the life you were meant to live.
- What will your (family, friends, other people) think once you’re where you want to be?
- What kinds of decisions will you be making, and actions will you be taking?
- What mindset will guide you? What strategies and signature strengths will you be using to make what you want achievable and sustainable?
- What will people say about the kind of person you are?
Coaching Questions to Bring Your Inspired Intentions to Life!
Once you begin making changes, you can reinforce your why by asking yourself some questions. You don’t need to ask all of these; choose the ones that speak to you. Or make up your own self-coaching questions. Ask yourself as if you are already there.
- How is making these changes positively affecting my happiness?
- How much more energy do I have now?
- How much stronger do I feel?
- How is my sense of meaning and purpose being fed?
- What am I able to do now that I wasn’t able to do before?
- What feels good about keeping it going?
- What worries am I leaving behind?
- What am I proud of?
- What feels satisfying?
- What is surprising?
- How has my confidence grown?
- How has my mindset shifted?
- What kind of person am I now?
- What do I believe about myself now that I couldn’t before?
- How has my mental health improved? My physical health?
- How would you finish these sentences?
- I am the kind of person who ___________________________.
- My friends and family have commented that _________________________.
- How much has my pain (stiffness, achiness) subsided?
- What will I take on next?
Coaching Questions to Set Smart Goals
SMART: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Time-Bound
Goals are experiments. You can set them, learn from them, and course correct or even start over to create the actions that breathe life into your Inspired Intentions. When setting goals, it’s helpful to start small and build upon your successes. Here are some questions to ask yourself to create sustainable (also known as Habits).
Let’s get Specific and Measurable, and Time-bound.
Think about one thing from Skyterra that you want to integrate into your life.
- What exactly is it you want to do within a specific timeframe (let’s say one week)?
- How often will you do it? For how long or how many nights/week? Which nights?
- Ex. I will make five Skyterra Plate dinners next week.
Consider how Attainable and Realistic this will be for you.
- Who or what could support you in doing this?
- What personal strengths or values (such as organization, determination, commitment to health) will help you pull this off?
- What practical considerations do you need to keep in mind?
- When you think about everything else you are already doing, how realistic is doing this? What would make it more realistic?
- What will make it easy?
- What will feel good about doing it?
Once it seems you have all the pieces in place to make five Skyterra plate meals, ask yourself, “What could possibly get in the way?” Come up with a solution. Be flexible. Allow yourself some play, such as switching up the nights, or using canned wild salmon instead of cooking it.
What’s your confidence level that you will be successful? Aim for a 7 or higher out of 10. If it’s a 6, ask, “Why not a 4 or a 5?” This elicits your reasons why. Think what would increase your confidence level. Maybe buying some prepped veggies, cutting back to three meals to start, or something else will increase your confidence.
Coach Yourself to Keep it Going: Do an Appreciative Goal Review
After trying out your goal(s) you can reinforce your successes and learn from it.
Take a few moments to ask yourself (and answer) a few questions.
- What was the most positive experience with this goal?
- What did I do to make this work, even if there were challenging circumstances? What personal strengths did I call upon?
- How did I feel as I did it? After? What did I most enjoy about doing it?
If some part of (or the whole goal) didn’t go as you hoped and planned, ask:
- What did I learn?
- What could I do to adapt it for next time?
Rinse and repeat for this or any other SMART goals you create.
Resources
- Take the Free VIA Institute on Character Strengths Survey: https://www.viacharacter.org/surveys/takesurvey
- How Does Coaching Work? A Short Movie https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UY75MQte4RU
- Want more support? Schedule sessions with Beth, our Virtual Life Coach, on the Premium section of Skyterra at Home.